Cant get motivated to lose weight? Neither can I! Losing weight does not motivate anyone on its own. Why? Because losing weight is not a human need; its a complication of a poor lifestyle. A compelling motivator is one that truly drives you. What are humans motivated by? Our sexuality Our desire for love Our desire to live Our desire to protect ourselves and our families Our desire to experience pleasure Our desire to avoid pain When you are on the beach, you want to look buff or toned because you want to feel attractive your pride and your sense of your sexuality are at stake. When you are in your wedding dress, you want to look beautiful because all eyes will be on you. When you have to compete against other consultants in your field for business and you know that you are judged as less competent because of the extra weight youre carrying, then your pride, your desire to protect yourself, and your desire for gain can drive you. And when you dont have the energy to be the partner or parent you want to be, start the business that you know will bring you financial success, or go dancing on Friday night (and maybe meet your Mr. or Ms. Right!), you may find almost all of these motivators driving you. Chances are good that youve punished your body with enough extended stays in diet traps that your motivators (as powerful as they are) have lost their ability to compel you to diet, or to stick with a diet. This is a good thing! Dont even worry for a minute that this means you do not have the willpower or discipline necessary for you to lose weight. All it means is that you finally gave up on something that wasnt working. If you ask me, that is a sign of your intelligence and psychological health, not a sign of insufficient motivation! There isnt enough motivation in this world to make you successful at dieting. But you already have all the motivation you need to make the changes that will cause you to look, feel and perform better every day the changes that will cause you to lose weight as a natural result of how you live. The motivation that has failed you when it came to dieting will fuel you as you create a successful lifestyle and start making health, not weight loss, your goal. Many people think that improving your lifestyle is difficult. The reality is, being diet-trapped is difficult whether or not you think youre dieting! Living in diet traps is living a lifestyle that keeps you confused and chronically overweight (or locked in battle with disordered eating). Dieting and being overweight or obese are grueling. Orienting your lifestyle around a Nutrient Rich Lifestyle isnt living successfully obviously works! Getting out of the diet traps and into a successful lifestyle requires some effort at first, because theres a learning curve. But it is not a constant test of will; its an energizing, fulfilling process because you are getting your nutritional needs met, sometimes for the first time in years! You will increase your energy right away, more than making up for the effort youre investing! According to Alan Goldhamer and Doug Lisle, MyTrainer expert advisors and authors of The Pleasure Trap: We are designed to follow our instincts in this process, and to eat to satiation as often as possible, without getting too little or too much. The natural result is a body with adequate reserves, but without excessive fat that results in physical compromise But our mechanisms of satiation can work properly only if we eat foods consistent with our design the solution is not to learn how to eat less than desired, but rather to eat in a way thats appropriate for our species. When you create a successful lifestyle, you no longer fight your basic desires to eat and be fulfilled. You transition from foods that stimulate and sabotage you to foods consistent with your design that truly nourish and nurture your body and will naturally taste great to you. You find your weight naturally adjusting to a healthy level while youre living your life and accomplishing your other goals. This is why you need much less motivation to change your lifestyle than you need to persevere in a diet you and your body are finally on the same team! |
